7/12/12 KILLING BEAUTIES.....cantik untuk apa? (Draft)

"Professionally he was a successful person. He owned an Automotive Company in Petaling Jaya, dealing in all those luxury cars. Having good income. Enjoying great simple life. Very generous to his society. Always extending his hands to the needy. But he has no family. Remained single to this day at the age of 45. A year ago, he met a lady that he was deadly in love with. He thought, that's it. He really want to have a great family. The lady was his best discovery-encounter. But the lady was not willing to have a person as too successful as him. She has a feeling that a person like him would easily cheat onto her. She was beautiful. He shown me her photo. Tall. Nice productive body built. Long dark curly hair. Fair skin. Pointed nose. Great lips. Long neck. Deep dark eyes. A Pakistani breed. Highly educated. Being a bit independent. Working in a corporate world. But, she was a very different Kuala Lumpur's girl. She just wanted a moderately well to do but with strongly religious attachment spouse. Sound typical Posthun tribe of Pakistani. The Afghan related most probably. Due to his deadly love, he sold his Company, and really go after the lady. He dreamed to dedicate his life to his family, a noble mature thought, I believe. He donated most of his saving for charity especially to those Acheh Tsunami victims. He bought a land in Sungai Ramal, Kajang. Built himself a just decent BaliHomeStyle resident, with nice garden and playground. His dream was to be with the lady, his future family, as if living in on earth-heaven." But he met his shattered love. He is in deep frustration.

Dia boleh dikatakan seorang yang sangat berjaya dalam hidupnya. Punya Syarkat Pengedaran Kereta Mewah di Petaling Jaya. Punya pendapatan lumayan tinggi. Punya gaya hidup agak mewah tetapi ringkas. Pemurah. Sering menghulur tangan saat diperlukan. Cuma, belum punya keluarga. Bujangan biar umur sudah mencecah 45 tahun. Setahun lalu, dia ketemu seorang gadis. Dia jatuh cinta. Cinta sepenuhnya. Itulah jodohnya, itulah teman hdidup idamananya, tanggapnya. Dia pasti. Dia yakin. Dia kegilaan kecintaan pada gadis itu. Cuma, gadis itu lain dari kebanyakan gadis di Kuala mLumpur. Dia tidak suka suami yang kaya. Dia bertanggap, suami sebegitu, mulutnya manis, hatinya sentiasa berubah-ubah, pasti kapan saja bisa menduakan-menodakan cinta. Dia butuhkan pria beragama. Dia ayu. Dari fotonya, jelas dia seorang yang tinggi. Punya tubuh yang lansing dan lumayan produktif. Punya rambut ikal mayang. Leher jinjang. Putih dan lembut. Hidung mancung. Bola mata hitam pekat. Keturunan Pakistan, kaum Posthum mungkin jika tidak Afghan. Kerana cinta, kerana gadis idaman, dia sanggup hidup sederhana. Dia menjual Syarikatnya. Mendermakan sebahagian wangnya, lalu memilih hidup Kekampungan ala Bali dengan harapan semua itu dapat memberikannya lingkungan wajar untuk bekerluarga dengan sempurna. Namun semua impiannya punah, cintanya kandas.Gadis itu tetap menidakkannya.

(2) The above was an inception of my writing on the last 11/12/12 about my searching journey founded friend now in bad health, I would say in revenge for not getting his dream. I could feel his frustration. He, from his simple story line, was a poor kid of a large poor family from the north. He struggle all through his life. He was only gifted with handsome wealth over the last five years ie when he was 40 years old. To marked his syukur he used most of his wealth to help his poor relatives. Prior to that, he do all sort of business in Kuala Lumpur particularly at Petaling Street and Chow Kit retailing on all those cheap products and thereon trading in Vietnam and Chinese cheap goods. About ten years he stood and tumbled in those fierce life struggle. Luck was with him when he was asked to help in the setting of an Auto Part Trading, and thereon he slowly ventured into Auto Sales, first in sporty cars then into luxury one. That where he struck his luck with the uprising of the affluent youngs as well as the influx of foreigners through the Malaysia My Second Home Program in Klang Valley.

(2b) Perkisahan di atas, adalah terkandung dalam tulisan saya terdahulu bertarikh 11/12/12. Dia sebetulnya saya temui dalam jalanan pertualangan saya ke Indochina sedikit masa lalu. Kini dia dalam kegawatan teruk. Kesihatanya seperti mahu punah. Saya berkira dia sedang berdendam lantaran kekecewaannya. Saya amat terasa akan rasa kecewanya. Mengerti dan mendalami. Dia, dulu adalah anak miskin dari keluarga besar di Utara Tanahair. Dia berusaha keras membina hidup tanpa bantuan sesiapa. Mula berpetualang di Kualam Lumpur, berdagang apa saja di Petaling Street dan Chow Kit, dua wilayah yang kelihatan meriah namum penuh keganasan-ancaman. Sepuluh tahun dia bertarung hidup di sana, sehingga akhirnya dia berjaya setelah di ajak oleh seorang teman untuk terlibat dalam dagangan barang gantian automobil. Kemahirannya untuk berurusan di perbatasan, menjadikan dia sangat berjaya, lalu akhirnya membangun Syarikat sendiri. Kejayaan sebenar hanya menyapa hidupnya sekitar lima tahun sudah. Lewat harta yang dia perolehi, dia membantu kaum keluarga dan sahabat handai di Kampung.

(3) Last night I was reading about all those women surrounding prophet Muhammad SAW. That include his mother, his first wife, his daughters, his other wives. Muhammad SAW had said, there are four great women in Islam: Asiah, the wife of Pharaoh, who care for Moses, Maryam bt Imran, mother to Jesus, Khadijah bt Khuwalid, his first wife, and Fatimah bt Muhammad, his daughter whom married to Ali Abi Thalib, his nephew. Fatimah was the best among them all. Among the Sunnis' writing, Aishah, his youngest and the only virgin lady that he married was much praised as compare to the others apart from Khatijah. But interestingly, as I browse through my other book, ie Antologi Islam, Risalah Islam Tematis dari Keluarga Nabi translated from the Encyclopidia of Shia, the description of Aishah RA is almost 180 degree different than those that I have read especially with regard to her beauty and caring attitude toward the prophet as compare to the other wives. The book revealed that she was not the most beautiful among Muhammad SAW wives, and she was a lady of great jealousy especially toward Khadijah, though she had long passed away. Aishah was also not happy with the other prophet's much beautiful wives such as Zainab bt Jahsy, Malikah bt Kaab, Shafiyah bt Huyay, Asma bt Numan and Mariah bt Qibt. Mariah in fact gave birth to Ibrahim a son to almost alike the prophet. Muhammad SAW divorced both Malikah and Asma, though they were much more beautiful, due to their short minded, trapped into Aishah jealousy trick

(3b) Tadi malam saya asyik membaca perkisahan para wanita di sekeling Muhammad SAW. Ini termasuklah bonda baginda, isteri pertama, puteri-puteri dan isteri-isteri lain baginda. Sesungguhnya Islam telah memeilih empat wanita sebagai yang terbaik iaitu Asiah, isteri Firaun, Siti Mariam, ibu Isa AS, Khadijah, isteri pertama Muhammad SAW dan Fatimah, puteri baginda dan isteri kepada Ali Abi Thalib. Fatimah adalah terunggul di antara semuannya. Kenapa? Di kalangan penulis Sunni, Aishah RA sepertinya mendapat perhatian luas. Sedang dalam pembacaan saya dari Antologi Islam, Risalah Islam Tematis dari Keluarga Nabi terjemahan dari Encyclopidia of Shia digambarkan sifat-sifat Aishah adalah sebaliknya. Dia seorang yang sangat cemburu serta sering berlalu kurang sopan terhadap Muhammad SAW. Dikisahkan bahawa Aishah bukanlah isteri Muhammad SAW yang paling cantik. Zainab bt Jahsy, Malikah bt Kaab, Shafiyah bt Huyay, Asma bt Numan and Mariah bt Qibt adalah jauh lebih cantik dan bersopan terhadap Muhammad SAW. Namun, Muhammad SAW menceraikan Malikah dan Asma lantaran permainan Aishah. Persoalan sifat Aishah RA, bukanlah sebab sebenar perceraian tersebut, tetapi Muhammad SAW punya sebab lain? Apa sebetulnya?

(4) My interest to study Aishah RA in particular was due to a reading that I had made where, Umar Al Khataab was mad with his daughter, Hafsah, whom was also Muhammad SAW wife. Habsah seem to emulate Aishah attitude dare to argue with the prophet which one day made Muhammad SAW shied away from his wives. My interest is not to check on how best or worst was Aishah. My interest was more to understand the meaning of beauties that Allah had given to some women. If Aishah was really beautiful, how did those beauty had helped Muhammad SAW to his tasks, as messenger of Allah and leader of the Ummah? Particularly with the incident that is now happening to my friend my interest to see on the matter garnered much deeper. May Allah help me on this, and with such I hope to share with many and accordingly hopefully lots will benefit. I do hope with this little discovery, I could also revive my friend spirit to his created course. InsyaAllah.

(4b) Minat saya untuk sedikit meninjau kehebatan Aishah RA terpercik dari pembacaan saya betapa Umar Al Khataan pernah memarahi Hafsah, anaknya, yang juga adalah isteri Muhammad SAW yang terikut-ikut akan sikap Aishah yang sering tidak sopan terhadap Muhammad SAW sehingga suatu hari menimbulkan kemarahan baginda. Minat saya ini bukan untuk melihat buruk baik Aishah. Saya berminat untuk melihat bagaimana keayuan itu telah dapat membantu Muhammad SAW dalam tugasannya sebagai persuruh Allah serta pemimpin Ummah. Khusus atas kejadian kepada teman saya di atas, keinginan saya untuk meleraikan prihal ini kian memuncak. Semoga penemuan saya akan dapat membantu yang terjerat oleh kecantikan, khusus dilihat dari sudut menunaikan fitrah kejadian seseorang. Mudah-mudahan Allah menurunkan ilham buat saya berpetualang dalam hal ini. InsyaAllah.

(5) Too many will say, beauty is not everything. Beauty is also not only a matter of physical appearance. In fact I'm not interested is all those. So many had talk about it, but not many has spoken what is beauty for? That is and will be my key argument.

(5b) Terlalu banyak yang berkata, " Ada apa pada kecantikan?". Ungkapan sebegitu, kebiasaannya bukan untuk menghuraikan tentang apa hikmah di balik kecantikan, tetapi lebih kepada selentingan sinis. Maka tiada keberhasilannya. Saya ingin membawa pembaca untuk menghayati anugerah kecantikan agar ianya jadi lebih bermnakna untuk penerimanya.

(6) If one look at the history, one would very much agreed that Rome was conquered by Egypt not through war, but beauty. Cleopatra wisely used her beauty to capture Rome, through the eyes and heart of Julius Ceaser and Mark Anthony. Prior to such, Cleopatra indeed had passed all her competitors from within the Egypt ruling family by manipulating them with her beauty. Why did Cleopatra behave as such all through her life? Did the Egypt gain from such an attitude? The answer to that was Yes. Cleopatra used her beauty to protect Egypt from the hunger of Rome. But let now see the case of, Qabil the son of Adam AS, killed Habil, his brother, nothing but due to his desire to have his beautiful twin sister as his wife not to be cross-married to Habil as Allah had commanded. This tragedy was in deed the firtst human quarrel. What doi we learn from such. In deed it was all about greed. In the modern lives, we could still remember, how personality such as Elvis Presley died due to his woman-liking attune. Loves turned Elvis into numerous hear breaking. Accordingly, Princess Diana shaken Queen Elizabeth family through her beauty scandalous lives. My favorite singer, Ariel of initially PeterPant and now Noah group, succumbed to jail, all was due to his frustration of capturing a beauty. In deed through some of these examples, we could deduced some great lessons.

(6b) Jika kita melihat sejarah, pasti Cleopatra adalah contoh terbaik bagaimana kecantikan sangat tinggi nilainya. Sesungguhnya, selepas ayahnya, Mesir akan menghadapi kucar kacir akibat perebutan kuasa di kalangan ahli keluarganya. Namun, dengan kecantikan, Cleopatra dengan cepat dan licik memunsahkan semua musuh-musuhnya untuk menaiki tahta. Begitu juga, saat itu Rom adalah sangat gagah dan kapan saya akan mendarat untuk menghancurkan Mesir. Sekali lagi Cleopatra dapat menggunakan kecantikannya untuk menyelamatkan Mesir dari taklukan Rom. Namun sejarah awal manusia juga membuktikan pertumpahan darah juga boleh terakibat dari soal kecantikan. Qabil membunuh adiknya Habil kerana ingkar akan perintah Allah agar adiknya yang cantik dinikahkan kepada Habil. Betapa kecantikan juga boleh meruntuhkan segala-galanya seperi apa yang terjadi kepada Elvis Presley dan Lady Diana. Begitu juga dengan Micheal Jackson yang gila cantik. Di negara ini, banyak juga lelaki gila cantik sehingga sifat kuda mereka jadi sotong lembik. Begitulah antara yang bisa menghargai kecantikan dengan yang menggunakan kecantikan demi kecantikan semata-mata.

(7) In deed prior to Sarawak 2010 State Election, I was very nervous of my grand KPI ie wherever, however, whatever and whenever LCDA, the organization that I led, do something, the grand KPI was to deliver the best vote to the governing Government. Meaning, we must win the people heart and mind ie making good all that we are doing. Feeling the swaying political mood of the rural and peri-urban folks, I was indeed very nervous. The economy was not moving well. The rakyat were very restless. I was in deep worried. Not because I was scared that the ruling government might lost their position, but more toward the possible chaotic if things are in lost control. But I was relief when the Chief Minister, Taib Mahmud extend his special invitation for me to be presence at his weeding. As I saw the woman whom would be the wife walked into the reception hall for the akad nikah, her beauty and her friendly public gesture immediately captured my confident that Taib will lead well. Thus during the Election Campaign period, as I attended some of the functions, his beautiful friendly wife made thing much easier for Taib especially among the rural folks. Seeing from a distance, (in most event, I love to see things from a distance, to observe, think and strategise) the way the crowd received Taib and the wife, sometimes made me feel as if, a favorite lady Hindi movie star was around. The rakyat were moved by her beauty and entertaining gesture. This seem to carry on to this day. Probably, that is the manifestation of there is always a woman behind a successful man. How true? I would believe depending on case to case.

(7b) Kira-kira setahun sebelum Pilihanraya Negeri pada 2010 lepas, saya berada dalam keadaan amat resah. Suasana politik semasa agak kacau. Kedaan ekonomi kurang memberansangkan. Saya dapat merasa keresahan hati rakyat khusus mereka yang di luar bandar serta pekan-pekan kecil. Saya risau bukan kerana saya takut Kerajaan yang memerintah akan tumbang dan saya kehilangan pekerjaan. Itu bukan kekhuatiran saya. saya hanya khuathir jika keadaan huru-hara berlaku atas sikap tidak p[uas hati rakyat serta keadaan tidak terkawal. Namun, bila saya mendapat undangan untuk mempersaksikan pernikahan Taib Mahmud, bila terpandang akan keayuan serta sikap ramah dan mudah mesra bakal isterinya yang melangkah masuk ke Dewan Akad Nikah, hati saya tiba-tiba jadi lega dan yakin betapa pernikahan itu adalah kekuatan Taib Mahmud untuk mendepani pilihanraya yang serbentar kemudian akan dia pertaruhkan. Sesungguhnya saat kempen Pilihanraya Negeri kemudiannya, isteri Taib sangat membantu. Rakyat begitu mudah tersentuh atas sifat ramah dan mesranya. Di sini, diam-diam sebetulnya betapa saya menyadari akan kebesaran Allah: Lewat kecantikan, pekerti baik, dan mendokongnya sang isteri adalah sangat membantu kejayaan sang suami.

(9) Why do Allah gives some women greater beauties that others? This interest seem similar to the argument of why roses are much attractive as compare to lalang? Or would the roses be beautiful if the lalang are never be around? If beauty really matter, then why did Muhammad SAW divorced his much beautiful wives ie Malikah bt Kaab and Asma bt Numan? Accordingly, in the Al Quran there is this statement: ...matters that could bring man downfall among others are women.... That the very reason, Muhammad SAW advise was to look for a person with the religion as the key criteria for a good marriage then move on to pleasant apperance and last wealth and hereditary. Many knew about this, but how did one understood or acted on all these cautionary warnings or reminders? Or why do most didn't get to the correct idea? I said this, by looking at the divorce rate in the country especially among young couples. Be it among Muslims or non-Muslims. It is alarming high. Why? Why do we need to bother?

(8b) Setiap sesuatu itu dari Allah. Cantik, buruk, kaya, miskin, segala. Setiap sesuatu itu ada maksud kejadiannya. Mawar, kembang yang cantik, namun ada durinya. Lalang, sangat memedih mata memandang, namun saat kembang memutih lembut indah dibuai angin. Khadijah isteri pertamanya Muhammad SAW, bukan hanya kaya namun juga beradab, berilmu. Malah cantik serta punya ketegasan. Saat Muhammad dalam kegusaran mulai menerima wahyu, dia menjadi pendokong hebatnya. Malah dia menjadi penerima ajaran Muhammad SAW paling awal. Sesungguhnya Khadijah, meletakkan kecantikan serta harga dirinya pada kedudukan yang paling baik. Dia menyumbang seluruh kekuatan dirinya untuk perjuangan Muhammad SAW. Sesungguhnya sebelum Muhammad, betapa banyak lelaki lain mahukan dia. Bukan itu sahaja, beliau terus membantu Muhammad sehingga akhir hayatnya. Lewat Khadijah, kedamaian rumah tangga Muhammad sangat mantap, sehingga terlahir Fatimah Al Zahrah dari hasil didikan yang baik menjadi wanita terbaik seisi alam. Begitu juga Abdullah bapanya Muhammad, serta Aminah ibunya. Saat pernikahan mereka berdua, diriwayatkan adalah pernikahan pasangan paling ayu-ganteng. Namun, keayuan dan kegantengan mereka adalah atas sifat mulia dan akhirnya Allah berkahi mereka dengan anak yang kemudian adalah pemimpin besar. Sesungguhnya, Allah menjadikan seseorang itu canti, bahkan ganteng, kerana Allah perlukan mereka untuk menjalani tugas-tugas seperti yang dia tentukan. Cuma, yang empunya tubuh, kerana sudah diberikan akal dan kalbu untuk mengenali dan menjalankan tugas itu dengan sebaik-baiknya. Sesungguhnya, perkahwinan kini yang banyak goyah, adalah kerana kedua-dua pihak tidak mengerti akan sifat dan tujuan kejadian masing-masing.

(9) Sesungguhnya indah kembang setaman, apalah ertinya tanpa ianya memberi manafaat kepada kehidupan lainnya. Tanpa para kumbang, lelebah, kupu-kupu, rama-rama, kelelawar, burung madu, lalat, semut, dsb mendapatkan madu dari segala kembangan apakah akan berserikah kembang-kembang itu? Maka, jika sesiapapun terlahir cantik dan ganteng, maka, berandalkan kembang serta apa juga kehidupan lainnya, sesungguhnya kecantikan dan atau kegantengan itu adalah agar empunyanya lebih sujud berbakti kepadanya. Untuk ini, wajar juga mengikuti kuliah The purpose of life by Shaykh Khalid Yassin at www.1islam.net.

Kuching, Sarawak
18 Disembar, 2012